Rocking your RelationShip?

Do you have a relationship, a marriage, partnership, companionship, or friendship that isn't going quite the way you'd like it to?  Would you like some help in putting it back together again?   Read on and find out how you can become aware of the strategies that cement people together - or break them apart.

During the past few decades there have been many changes on the gender scene.  It's good to understand that we are all different and we all have our ways of living.  This is a relaxed way to view society and live within it.    

However, somehow, some folk have lost the ability to navigate the stormy seas that relationships sail upon and can't quite know which sail to haul up or which rope to pull on to bring them safely back to shore.  

When a relationship breaks down, our experience is that it's more than communication gone awry.  Even though, sometime, way back in the past, someone said something that wasn't acted upon by the recipient of the remark or it festered, it grew, and was built upon - with no words said - or, perhaps too many words were said - loudly, harshly, disrespectfully - there are other things at work here.  

Whatever you are facing now, you now find yourself on track to ripping apart what you once thought was solid, reliable, good and strong.

Most people are not taught how to communicate. As kids, we learn a lot from our parents and teachers and other 'authority' figures.  We also learn a lot about how to protect ourselves and how to get the best out of the 'opposite' sex.  More often than not, we learn what works through practice, through actions, through experiencing and expressing emotions.  We don't necessarily learn, any more, through being taught by an expert on the subject.

Yet, we go along, blindly trying to figure our way through the muddy waters, thinking our problems go way deeper than a therapist can ever imagine.  

But, you know what?  There are a few choice strategies, that, if put into action, can save a partnership from sinking down into the depths of despair.  These are not easy strategies to do.  It means changing our ways.  Not necessarily our personality or our character, but it requires being present, aware and active in the relationship.    

There are a few key points to adhere to.  

• Willingness to change a point of view.  
• Persistence in learning new ways of relating.  
• Ability to understand how different we really are.  

If we can learn some new ways of being, viewing, and use new tools, you'll find yourself working remarkably well at saving your relationship from doom - and you may even enjoy it.

Many people with relationship issues have been treated using approaches which drag them back through the experience again - which is a highly unpleasant thing to have to do.  They are also taught to speak to each other through 'listening' exercises.  They are trained to pay attention to each other and often asked to repeat back what the other has said.  

This does not happen in our therapy.  Once we have the gist of the issues you face, we teach you methods and give you tools to work with to understand where the issues are coming from and help you relax your mind with Guided Imagery and may even use the Rewind Technique if you so wish.  

What's best about this is that your therapist doesn't even need to know the intimate details of what happened to you.  

So, if you suffer from relationship issues, Windmills of the Mind may be able to help you through.  So please give us a call on 0774 741 7722 and we can book an appointment with you.

Ladies, would you like to know how to get the best out of your man?  Read our book 'Slippery Frog or Faithful Dog - which do you wanna kiss?"  I'm currently creating one for men, too.